How long should you date before you get engaged? How long should an engagement last? Sofia Vergara was recently asked on Chelsea Lately about her engagement and her answer surprised me. Her perspective is that an engagement is another period in your relationship. It does not automatically mean let's book the church.
I have to admit that my now husband had that same view on our engagement. He felt that there was no need to rush things. (Of course this drove me crazy as I couldn't wait to start planning our wedding.) We did however end up having a two year engagement, and it ended up being just fine. There was no need to rush things, we still got married, we were still together the whole time. I think planning a wedding is so much fun (who would have thought, right?) but for some people it isn't. There is family drama, money issues, scheduling conflicts. If you are struggling to make decisions and meet a short timeline maybe it is time to reconsider. America is very much about time saving and maximizing efficiency maybe we should spend more time enjoying our dating and engagement periods. The wedding will come and when it does you will get to enjoy the married part.
As Trace Adkins says it "You're gonna miss this".
I have to admit that my now husband had that same view on our engagement. He felt that there was no need to rush things. (Of course this drove me crazy as I couldn't wait to start planning our wedding.) We did however end up having a two year engagement, and it ended up being just fine. There was no need to rush things, we still got married, we were still together the whole time. I think planning a wedding is so much fun (who would have thought, right?) but for some people it isn't. There is family drama, money issues, scheduling conflicts. If you are struggling to make decisions and meet a short timeline maybe it is time to reconsider. America is very much about time saving and maximizing efficiency maybe we should spend more time enjoying our dating and engagement periods. The wedding will come and when it does you will get to enjoy the married part.
As Trace Adkins says it "You're gonna miss this".
WARNING: I love country music so expect to see some references on occasion, or maybe all the time. :)